Talking about mental health is not that sexy but it is what I do.
What is perceived as sexy? A powerful woman at the gym getting after the change that she believes elevates her, body, mind and soul. What’s not perceived as sexy? A woman sitting in a waiting room for a therapist. I ask you: why the hell not?
Today it seems we are supposed to be positive all of the time. Positive and even-keeled. If we are not, then there is a drug or a program or a something that will magically switch our thinking to see the sunshine. Then there is the other side when we actually need the emotional support but if we get it we may be worried about what other people will think. Maybe we think it's a sign of weakness. Sometimes it’s as simple as we believe we are supposed to get our shit together on our own.
People are complicated. There is no normal. There is only your normal and what you can tolerate in another person's normal. People are happy, sad, angry (god forbid we show that in public). We cry, laugh, scream. All those feelings help to make us human. The understanding "the what" and "the why" behind when we feel these things, often times means we need the ear of another person.
A good therapist can be your champion. Someone trained to listen and help you sort out that voice in your head. The relationship between you and your therapist can help you to see and uncover patterns in your behavior that you may not be able to see alone. She can also help you clear an emotional path to make room for change. Real characterlogical change, not only makes you aware of behaviors that no longer serve you but leave them behind; if that is what you are seeking, can happen in the therapeutic relationship.
Most of us are just fine the way we are. I am pretty sure I was ok when I walked into my first therapy appointment a million years ago, but I wanted my life to elevate to better. I wanted to understand some of the choices that I was making. I was curious. It may not have been the best period of my life but the choice to find a therapist to help me was the smartest thing I ever did. When you have a better understanding of your own behaviors, thinking and actions you can start to have more empathy for others.
Psychological issues are real and like a broken leg or cancer they need to be treated and addressed in order to lead a full, authentic, unapologetic life. Talking to a person who is trained to help you understand yourself better is the same as taking that taxi to urgent care.
Together let's make your mental health treatment as sexy as fun at the gym. It’s doable. We can do it together.