I remember the day I walked into my first therapist’s office. First off, let it be known that I found that therapist in the phone book. Yup, an actual book. You may or may not remember that they delivered those big honking things to your door - but they did. Then I picked up my landline (for real) and made the call. I made my appointment, hung up the phone and then instantly decided I wanted to cancel it. What was I thinking? “I am not going to go tell this woman all my demons, no way!!” But, in the end, I went anyway. I got up, walked from the East Village over to the West Village and started to get real.
There were so many factors involved in making that call. There was a break-up, a career crisis, a terrible roommate - the list was endless and it was all super overwhelming. I knew I needed help sorting that sh-t out and my friends and family were not the ones that were going to be able to help me. So I walked across town to that appointment and got to work. Trust me, you don’t have to have a full house, like I did, to decide to make a change - but you know in your gut if it is that time - trust your gut.
What I am talking about is not easy and I know it. It’s raw and real but that’s how sh-t gets done and change is made - remember that kitchen renovation? Thought you were never going to live through that, right? But you did, and now every time you turn on the new dishwasher you are happy you did it. Getting to who you really are meant to be is a bit like that kitchen reno - it will be the same structure just with a new super powered you.
Wherever you are in your life, getting the help and support you need to make change is not really that simple is it? We are wired to think we can do it all, but we can’t (and that’s okay). Each one of us needs the support of another. In this case, I am suggesting a non-biased, therapeutic ear to help you weed out and understand what’s up in order to get to the next level of your life.
Me, well, I practice what I preach. Although I am not still with that same therapist from 25 years ago, I am still in the game every week. There is no end to learning about yourself. As you grow and change so do your thoughts, feelings and relationships. This self examination is not selfish - it is one of the best forms of self care available to you. Taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your skin. I bet after you washed your face this morning and you put on your moisturizer with at least a 15 SPF, you didn’t think twice about it. Understanding your thoughts and feelings and where they come from should be equivalent to that morning routine.
When you are ready to make that change, remember, I got you, girl! I have been where you are all too many times and know what it takes to get to the other side. Whether you're curious about private therapy or in our Circles program, please give me a call at the office 646-902-4378. We are in this together!